Now, whenever I am out, I try to compliment someone, anyone, just to give them that brief, fleeting feeling of appreciation. A little "Hey, I see what you did there, good job!" or "Bold! Good for you!" Not in those words, but you get my drift. Here are the guidelines I use. If I think it in my head when I see them, as in "Wow those are wicked shoes!", I will try and say it to them, Just a brief tap on the shoulder, or hand on their arm, look right in their eyes and say it, then go. No need to stand and chit chat, I find that might tend to make them uncomfortable. More like a love tap of admiration. It can be anyone, of any age or gender. Not often men, as they may take it the wrong way, but on occasion, yes. That sales rep in the grocery store bold enough and stylish enough to wear a dark FUSCHIA shirt and matching tie, oh yes Sir, you definitely get the nod. "Awesome colour! It looks great on you!" then drift like the wind away. That 50ish lady walking down the street, you know, the one where you think, Man, she has her shit together....hair, makeup, sunglasses, shoes, outfit, wicked shoes...really put some effort into her appearance. Just a pause on the street, light touch on her forearm, "Excuse me, just had to stop you to say you look fantastic! Have a great day!" Then off you go. I don't turn around, I just keep walking. It has yet to not make someone grin. And what can be bad about that? I must admit, the people I tend to do it most too, are big people, like I was. Cause I KNOW what it is like to be big AND invisible. I remember all to well. So, if I see a person of size who has what I see as some style, some pizazz, something going on that just appeals to me, I tell them. These are the people that tend to be the most shocked, and that alone makes me feel sad. But of you have a bitchin' purse, I tell you. If your makeup is a little OTT and flawless, just that way I like it, I will let you know I see the effort you made and appreciate it. It costs me NOTHING to do this, not a sou. And if, just if, I can lighten someone's load, ever so briefly; just for a second they can feel a little better, what can possibly be the downside of that.
And, it makes me feel like I just gave a little back, to that wonderful woman who took a few seconds out of her day to help me feel that I was worthy of recognition.
Thank you mystery lady. I appreciate it.